Here’s her situation and question:

I’d like the fun, full of laughter, good times, gorgeous smooching, juicy chemistry, banter, relaxed & exciting 3 month doesn’t end horribly wrong relationship with someone I really fancy inside and out.

With someone who is intelligent, warm, there’s ace chemistry, smells good – literally and metaphorically – fun, straightforward, only plays blackjack, backgammon, pool, scrabble games.

THEN I’d like the long term commited, long term loving relationship with the one of ones.

I’ve done the “how to manifest more sex” for months now.  Even bought plenty of new underwear.  Woo!

As a woman I don’t play games, am not manipulative, am straightforward, chatty, intellgent, am myself, wear my favourite outfits, have great times, go out, am proactive when I meet people and suuggest meeting up with them again; platonically, as well as romantically. And as a post femisit equlaitarian: I always get a round of drinks in, pay my share: because it seems fair, decent and the right thing to do.

So far, this is what’s happened:

I go out, meet people, romance is not the focus, and then meet  a guy whom I get on with, and am curious about romantically.

They state/grumble that women are: manipulative, play games, are dumb, there isn’t intellectual as well as physical romantical chemical ‘spark’, there’s no banter, they’re no fun, negative, etc.  Said chap realises I’m not any of these things: call me all kinds of awesome with actual comments like:

You have the most amazing face; I hope whoever you end up with appreciates it.
You’re the best kisser in the world.
I’ve never met anyone like you.
Wow, I’ve never had a great time like this before.
You’re fun.
I can be myself around you.
You’re gorgeous.
You’re beautiful in every way.
You have the biggest heart.
You’re decent, funny, sorted, you know what you want in life, great to spend time with, funny, you’re amazing intimately…

Chap and I don’t have sex, they say they want to meet up again; and in some cases, that’s the end of it. In some cases said chap then gets together with the very woman they claim to loathe.

Some of my single (or divorced) female friends who find out that I pay my share on dates, scold me for it, then suggest I play ‘The Rules’ type games.

My male friends say when a guy doesn’t call me back that it’s unjust.  When I explain that I haven’t played games or anything like that, they say that when they play games and are rotters, *that’s* when they get the lovely person.  When they’re honest, decent and trustworthy, that’s when they get left.

My married older mates applaud me for not playing games, and for being decent straightforward, and lovely.  My male single mates say I’m doing the right thing and as men they really appreciate women like me.

I don’t want to play games.  I’d like the straightforward lovely deliciousness.

Am I doing something wrong? Is this a Law of attraction thing that I’m not aware of? Do I have to play games and be rubbish to be with someone lovely?

Yours with love and blessings

Okay, readers, you’re up!  What’s your take on whether games are required to get a decent guy?

And got any advice for what our girl could do to leverage LOA in her favor?

“Why is true success so relatively effortless? It might be likened to the magnetic field created by an electrical current through a wire. The higher the power of the current, the greater the magnetic field that it generates. And the magnetic field itself then influences everything in its presence.” David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.

The law of attraction can help to determine the course of your future, and the successes or failure which you may encounter along the way.

Before we go too deep into the modern applications of the law of attraction it is important that you understand that this is not simply New Age nonsense (most descriptions of the law of attraction refer to it as a product of a New Age Mentality). The principles of the law of attraction date back far beyond the new found popularity of the New Age.

The immortal Buddha was actually one of the first to introduce man to the law of attraction. He said, “What you have become is what you have thought.” This was a principle that the people of the east were acquainted with for centuries before it began to sweep into the western hemisphere.

The concept of karma also may have drawn its roots from the law of attraction. Karma states that you will eventually be revisited by that which you have sent out into the universe. If you have practiced kindness and compassion you will receive in kind. If you have been deliberately cruel to another you will receive back into your life that cruelty which you have sent out. Your actions and thoughts morph into physical entities, causing the universe to react in kind.

The law of attraction began to gain popularity in the western hemisphere in the 19^th century, as people began to appreciate the power of positive thinking and apply it to their life. This new concept was first introduced to the general public by William Walker Atkinson, the editor of New Thought magazine, who published a book called Thought Vibration or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World in 1906.

As you can see, the law of attraction is not new. The concept that thought can have a predominate affect on the course of a man’s destiny has been taught by wise men throughout the ages, and has given rise to a whole new era of beliefs.

Most people do not realize that the law of attraction is constantly in action.  Even if you do not believe in the law of attraction, it is still working in your life.

The law of attraction says that like attracts like.  This means that if you are a happy and joyful person, you will attract things into your life that are happy and give you more reason for joy.  The law of attraction doesn’t care if you want something or not, if you put your attention on it, the law of attraction says you will get it.

So if you think about how you don’t want something all the time, the law of attraction is going to attract it to you, because that is what you are focusing on.

If you believe that you must work hard to achieve success, then you will be attracting a reality to you that requires you to work hard in order to achieve success.  The law of attraction makes this happen.

I have read countless books on the law of attraction, but there is only one book that I have found that told me exactly what to do.  More than just vague theory, Manifesting Cards explains the law of attraction and provides an advanced tool to force the law of attraction to work for you.

Never before has the law of attraction been so easy to use.  Manifesting Cards showed me that anyone can master the law of attraciton in just a few days using the quick and easy tool provided.  Now I just use a manifesting card and I know that what I want is on it’s way to me in a matter of minutes.

I love manifesting cards and I know you will too.

If you don’t like yourself, why do you think the Law of Attraction will yield you anything? It responds to your vibration that you send out, and so if you don’t love yourself, then the universe won’t send you any love either. It matches like thoughts with like thoughts.

Stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself how much you love YOU. Even if you don’t believe it, keep doing this every morning and use it like an affirmation. You’ll find that the more you say it, the more you actually believe it.

I love you,

-Abraham